• Paula Newman

Focusing in the Counselling Room

Updated: Feb 15

I am interested in how Focusing can support counsellors in their work.This includes the counsellor's inner process and Focusing interventions that can be of benefit to clients.



Focusing is a gentle way of deepening self-awareness. It involves pausing and noticing a vague sense of something fuzzy and indistinct. This ‘something’ is so slight that it is almost not there. It is like the feeling that we are left with on waking from a dream. Gene Gendlin, the founder of Focusing calls this the ‘felt-sense’





Focusing is the name that Gendlin gives to the process of paying attention to the felt sense and describing it. As we find words, sounds and movements that resonate, the felt-sense gains substance and becomes more concrete and clear. It holds a weath of information, often new understandings and insights emerge.



Self-awareness and counselling


When something is experienced as a felt-sense and is not clear enough to be put into words it is implicit and at the edge of our awareness. Once it has been described and articulated it is available to us. Thus Focusing brings greater awareness of our inner experiencing.


Self-awareness allows counsellors to be authentic and genuine in their relationships with clients. In order to be real and true to oneself, it is necessry to be in touch with one's inner experiencing. Openness and genuiness creates a safe and trustworthy environment. Hopefully clients feel at ease to share and to explore their issues.


With access to their inner experiencing, counsellors are more likely to notice when something is affecting their empathy and acceptance.They can also recognize personal needs for self-care, and they can share aspects of their experiencing when beneficial for clients.


An example of working with the Felt-sense



On this particular occasion I was listening and responding to a client who I will call Aimee. At the same time I was sensing 'something in the air', a sort of heaviness.


I became aware of a slight uneasiness in my chest and acknowledged the feeling inwardly.


Our conversation continued. Every so often I gave some attention to the feeling in my chest, adding to my description of it with a word here and there.


At one point I put a gentle hand on my chest, by now it was aching a little. As I put my hand there to give it some soothing, I felt very sad.


Aimee stopped talking and also put her hand on her chest. We sat together for a while, and then she spoke about her loneliness.


Grounding


Occasionally, I am impacted by a client’s material to the extent that I am not as attentive as I would like to be.


On one particular occasion, a client who I will call Steve was telling me about his work stuation. I found myself becoming increasingly angry with his manager and realised that I was no longer empathising with Steve, I was caught up in my own sense of injustice. This was more than feeling a little bit angry, I was enraged and felt my body heating up.


Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin have discovered a way of being with intense emotion that allows us to experience the feeling without becoming overwhelmed by it. This is a powerful state of being which they call self-in-presence. It involves having an open and accepting attitude towards ourselves and everything that we are experiencing. This attitude is captured by the title of Anne’s book The Radical acceptance of Everything (2005)


Focusing with my anger


I pressed my feet into the ground, feeling its solidness and my own steadiness. I also leaned back into my chair and felt its support around me. Whilst still furious with Steve's manager I was more calm.


Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin have developed language that supports self-in-presence.


Saying to myself ‘I’m sensing something in me that is feeling furious’ enabled me to be in relationship with the furious part. With my acknowledgment and genuine acceptance, this part became more relaxed.


The phrase ‘Something in me’ reminded me that there was another something. A part of me that was empathising with Steve and feeling his stuckness at work.


Rather than becoming merged with either feeling, I greeted, heard and accepted both parts. This allowed me to hold both and to give Steve my full attention.


Focusing suggestions


So far, I have looked at the counsellor's inner process. Clients may also benefit from Focusing interventions.


Focusing suggestions are gentle offerings. They include ‘cushions’ such as, ‘If it feels right, you might like to…’ These respectful invitations trust individuals to know what they need.


Here are two examples of suggestions:


‘You might like to see if you can feel that in your body’


This suggestion can help people who are expressing thoughts whilst wanting to be closer to their emotions.


It can be easier for people who are trying to connect with vague feelings to locate and feel them in their body. For example 'butterflies in my tummy'


‘If it feels right you might like to put a gentle hand there’


If the client is feeling a painful emotion, perhaps in their chest or stomach this suggestion can bring soothing.


This is something that the client can do for them self which they may find empowering

Introducing Focusing sessions


People can see from my website that I practice Focusing. Some clients ask to try it out and may choose to continue in subsequent sessions. A few people naturally work with their material in a Focusing way.


My intention is to be non-directive and to follow each person’s process and preferences.


There are times when it seems to me that Focusing might be beneficial for a particular client. In offering this as a possibility I am always clear that there is no obligation and that we can stop at any time.


Usually I start with a guided ‘lead in.’ This involves bringing attention to the body and checking inside for the felt sense. I invite the client to share their experiencing with me, and I reflect back in a Focusing way.


In conclusion


I find that Focusing in the counselling room enhances my work. It offers me a way of grounding myself when necessary. With Focusing I am closer to my inner experiencing and therefore more self-aware. This enables me to be open and genuine in my relationships with clients.


I present Focusing interventions as invitations so that clients are free to try or discard them, depending upon what suits them best. When Focusing is a client’s choice and inclination, it adds to the depth of their explorations. Focusing can enable greater self-understanding and new insights.





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